“We are so lucky to be alive.”

Yesterday after Mass, Katelyn and I went to see the movie, Last Christmas. Without giving away too much, I can tell you I left in tears. There was so much beauty in the lines and the movie’s plot, but for me the most touching point, beyond the surprise element, was when the main character, Kate, (who had been serious ill and received a heart transplant a year earlier) was talking to Tom when he asked if he could touch the scar from the surgery on her chest. She allowed him to, and he gently touched it.

I realized in that moment what we do at Saint Miriam. We heal scars by not being afraid to touch them. Yes, so many of us have scars that we hide. So many of us live in pretend worlds where we often don’t let people see us with all of our wounds, some gaping, some scared over, some still healing. We come to Saint Miriam with past hurts, sores, open wounds and deep blemishes, but unlike many other parishes, we find that they matter not and are often healed, or at the very least, accepted and viewed as part of us. And, in that sacred realization, we find we are loved.

Today we also honor Transgender Day of Remembrance and the and the 311 Transgender persons murdered this year, as well as all those in the past killed – some 3,317 trans and gender-diverse people have been murdered globally since January 2008 – simply because of hate, like Diamond Williams, laid to rest on our property when even her own Catholic family discarded her body like waste, leaving her ‘unclaimed’ at the city morgue. Transgender Day of Remembrance seeks to highlight the losses we face due to anti-transgender bigotry and violence. We all should be proud of what we do as parish to not hate, and to always welcome and love, everyone. That should inspire us to give more to ensure we remain because after all, where would we find what we have created together?

Toward the end of the movie, Kate says a line that has resonated with me ever since I heard it. She said, “We are so lucky to be alive.” And so we are!

I pray that we end this year supporting the place that has loved us as we are. I pray we will all come to the Annual Concert and Silent Auction this Friday and give to our End of Year Campaign. I pray for those of us who feel we live but are still not worthy.

My wounds are as big as yours, and yet – at least for me – I now see how lucky I am to be alive and be part of who we are and what we’ve created. If this parish ever went way, I also know that I would be lost and all alone once again, scars and all. 
 
Rest well, Diamond. You are loved and not forgotten. And to everyone who feel they are too different to join us, come and find a place that loves like no other!
 
 

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